Since the beginning of the Fall Term at school, I have been in a deep, reflective groove. In particular, a conversation with someone with whom I have been acquainted over ten years dropped some important knowledge on me re: stepping up to senior administrative positions in independent schools. That conversation, which lasted almost one hour, led me to the following conclusions about myself, both professionally, and personally.
a. Listening more, and saying less. The things I think are good and right to say may prove too much for those receiving them. They may not be ready.
b. Asking more questions, rather than providing all of the answers. I need to be more about helping folks to do their own thinking, and putting their own work in.
c. Being more humble, rather than feeling the need to be right, or always feeling the need to prove that I am right.
d. Feeling like I am the only one who can change things. The folks running the institution, in this case, a school, have insights and facts that I don’t have. Moreover, even Dr. King had help. In fact, he had the strength and power of an entire movement. Besides, being the only one concerned about changing things – especially in these independent schools – is emotionally and physically exhausting and draining.
e. Staying more in my lane. In other words: What have I been charged to do where I am? Is there opportunity to do more of what I want to do where I am? And, if not, where can I go to find it?